Monogamy, monogamish, polyamory, relationship anarchy, solo polyamory, non-hierarchical polyamory, triad, unicorn, polycules, poly quads, co-dependency…
All of these labels have had a time and place in my life; they’ve allowed me to explore different ideas and assumptions around relationships. But increasingly, I feel like they can often stand in the way of understanding how we actually practice relationships.
It doesn’t matter how many people you fuck, or who; how many people you write love letters to, or how you rank people or don’t rank people in your life. None of these labels, or any number of people you are intimate with will describe a more or less radical, ethical, or in any way a “better” – more political or ethical way of doing relationships. Continue reading “How to relate ethically and politically: adventures beyond labels”
After holding a very inspiring and well-attended workshop with the same name at the Anarchist feminist conference in October 2014, we want to continue the discussions and build solidarity and peer support through a series of monthly face-to-face discussion groups on the topics of (loosely) “Anarchism in Love, Sex and Relationships”.
At the workshop in October plenty of exciting topics came up, and there was neither space nor time to listen and learn enough from each other’s experiences. Since it seems like a lot of people felt the same, we thought it would be a great idea to get together and do this! As well as using a group like this to discuss issues and learn from each other on a more general level (sometimes with the help of lighter reading material, such as short articles and blog pieces), we also want to use it for peer support and solidarity- so not just theoretical abstract discussions! Our feeling was that for a lot of people doing relationships differently can be quite difficult, with little support and guidance in people around you and in the media, and so it would be great if we could provide this for each other. After each meeting, we will aim to also go to the pub together for a chance to get to know each other more. Continue reading “How the group was born”