After holding a very inspiring and well-attended workshop with the same name at the Anarchist feminist conference in October 2014, we want to continue the discussions and build solidarity and peer support through a series of monthly face-to-face discussion groups on the topics of (loosely) “Anarchism in Love, Sex and Relationships”.
At the workshop in October plenty of exciting topics came up, and there was neither space nor time to listen and learn enough from each other’s experiences. Since it seems like a lot of people felt the same, we thought it would be a great idea to get together and do this! As well as using a group like this to discuss issues and learn from each other on a more general level (sometimes with the help of lighter reading material, such as short articles and blog pieces), we also want to use it for peer support and solidarity- so not just theoretical abstract discussions! Our feeling was that for a lot of people doing relationships differently can be quite difficult, with little support and guidance in people around you and in the media, and so it would be great if we could provide this for each other. After each meeting, we will aim to also go to the pub together for a chance to get to know each other more.
Some questions that came up and that we will continue to discuss in the future are:
– How to do polyamory/non-monogamy/relationship anarchy ethically? What does “ethically” mean?
– New types of relationships, new labels? Lover, boyfriend, girlfriend, partner, friends, primary, secondaries?
– What are the distinctions and hierarchies between different relationships, such as friends, partners and girlfriends/boyfriends and how does/should this affect our behaviour?
– How does our politics (anarchism, feminism etc.) – and the current politics/policies of the state- affect our relationships? And vice versa: how can our relationships affect our politics? What can we do about this?
-What are people’s different experiences and dilemmas around trying to “do” these relationships?
We have now had the first meeting, which was great with around 60 people attending. It generated lots of interesting discussions that we look forward to continuing on a monthly basis, hopefully at LARC in the future. We will update here shortly about the next session.
We will strive to make this group a safer space for people who are normally excluded and marginalised in supposedly “neutral” public spaces and groups. We welcome people of all genders, sexualities, and all lifestyles.